Well...basically 23 years. He was in and out of my life when I was a baby, and the ONLY memory I have of him is when he was in jail and I was hiding under the booth so he would not be able to see me. I am not sure how old I was, but it's the only thing I can remember.
Now I am 23. I contacted my dad back around May 2012, he was in jail (in FL) Well....the contact lasted for a couple weeks, and then I didn't hear from him until about a month ago, and that was only one phone call, he said he was going to try and make it to VA (where I am located) but I figured it was an empty promise, just like everything else. After the first contact in May, he said the same thing, then he got locked up again a couple times (I should probably say he is an alcoholic, that is what most of his charges are)
Longer story short, I got a phone call today from my aunt saying my dad had used someone's phone to call her, but she couldn't get to the phone in time. She called the number back and the man said that my dad had used his phone to let her know he was making his way to where we live (we=me and my aunt) but he didn't want me to know because he wants to surprise me in time for my birthday. Sad part is.....my birthday was on the 1st......he didn't even remember :/
So now he is about 2 hours away from my city, and I'm freaking out. He should be at my aunts house in the afternoon sometime. He is more worried about seeing my children though (2yo and 4yo) but I have told everyone that I do not want him to meet them until he can prove himself. He left me, I refuse to let him walk out of my kids' life like he did me. Everyone says that I am wrong for not letting him meet them, but....that's how I feel right now. I have so many mixed emotions right now and no one understands what I am going through, I am excited but at the same time I just want to cry....I am 23, but when it comes to stuff dealing with my dad, all the emotions of when I was younger come out.
My mom isn't much help at this point, she's against him coming here, and I feel that I have no support from anyone. I feel like i'm a little kid again...not a grown adult :(
Asked by Anonymous at 9:58 PM on Dec. 4, 2012 in Relationships
you can do this!
I think you are making the right decision by waiting to allow him to meet your children. You don't know him. It will basically be like getting to know your father for the first time. I wish you all the best. Take it slow, you have no obligation to appease him. I hope it turns out as well as it can! GL!
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