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I found messages in my boyfriend phone from his son mother that makes me think that they are still dealing with each other. Their son is only about to be 2 and they have only been a part for a year. He has been with me for 8 months now. I took her number out of his phone and I have been debating if I should call her to see what is going on. I asked him if he was still in love with her or sleeping with her and he said no. I think he is lying. I really do love him and it would kill me if he has been sleeping with his son mother. I would not call her to start drama but we have been having unprotected sex and if he is cheating on me I want to know. She is older than I am but would I be out of line to call the mother of his child?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:15 AM on Dec. 5, 2012 in Relationships
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Answer by 3libras at 11:28 AM on Dec. 5, 2012
I think if I were in that position, I would try to think hard on whether the feelings I was having were more about me or more about them. If I felt in my gut it was about them and thinking that they were wanting to possibly get back together I think I would let him go. I would hate to have to feel like I couldn't trust him when it comes to someone that he needs to have contact with because he shares a child with her. I would imagine it would be hard, but I would do it to save myself the heartache it would cause in the long run.
Now, if I thought that I was just being insecure and there was really nothing for me to worry about, just me borrowing trouble, then I would think about getting some counseling to figure out how to be less insecure.
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