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Do you check the placement of all the kids in your car before you put it in drive? adult content

This should be a real DUH question, shouldn't it?

Just picked up DS from school. The car in front of me in line was picking up 3 or 4 kids, and the last one getting in had a violin case (5th or 6th grade). She was standing hunched over with her feet on the door jam, still handing her violin case to another kid in the backseat. Most of her legs and back were still outside the open door, when the car started driving away.

I can see someone with a big van not being able to see all the kids aren't strapped in at a glance, but how the fuck do you not notice the door to your little 4 door car is still open and a kid is hanging out of it?

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Asked by NotPanicking at 3:01 PM on Dec. 5, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • I do, hubby doesn't always. I make sure I hear the click of their seat belts or have visually checked before I even turn the car on.

    The other day I was waiting in the car for my dad to come out of the store. As I am setting there, this lady gets her baby out of the car, sits him on the tailgate (with one of the rests hanging half off) and reaches back in the car! I was freaking out. I mean, I get that sometimes you have to move the car seat to get to other stuff, but couldn't she have at least made sure the damn thing was all the way on her car?

    Answer by spiritguide_23 at 5:22 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Most definitely! Even though mine is still in a car seat I buckle him. Put my seat belt on then turn and re check him. I,see too many kids hanging outta windows or not in their seats. And the parents on their phones. Ugh

    Answer by Babicakes24 at 4:56 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • hell even with adults I say everybody in, everybody buckled up and actually LOOK to make sure they are

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 4:47 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • I only have one and he just moved to a booster seat so I have to physically strap him in each time, so yes.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 4:45 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Yes. I always do.

    Answer by booklover545 at 3:57 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • I always checked when my kids were in public school. But I will say, at the school my kids went to, they were constantly rushing us. There were several times when the woman would come over and tell me to go while my kid was still WALKING to my car! I used to really piss her off when I was the first car in line (which, once I knew it pissed her off, I made a point of being), because I wouldn't budge until both my kids were buckled in. Now, I made sure they did it right away, I didn't deliberately try to make everyone else have to wait, I know we're all busy, but I didn't move from that spot until they were buckled. I also called 911 on one parent once day, because as we were driving down the highway after picking the kids up, her 2 year old was hanging her body, from the waist up, out the window, flipping the bird at people! It was insane.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 3:45 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • I should add that her brother will spout off statistics of people who don't wear a seatbelt the entire time! He calls her deathwish, I am not sure if it is because of me, or the fact that her refusal to be next to him might result in us all getting killed. My husband has a 2 seat car, so even when he does pick them up, we have to trade, she would like him to pick her up first and then come back to pick up our son! Does 14 end soon?

    Answer by jerseydiva at 3:28 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Yes I do. Omg on what you saw! What if the child had been hurt?!?!

    My daughter took her arms out of the car seat last week And I about died. We were on the freeway. I was In the passenger seat and totally jumped back there to buckle her.

    Answer by staciandababy at 3:28 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • I always do

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 3:25 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • That's just crazy. How could someone not notice their kid still getting into a car? I really can't comprehend that.

    Answer by Ballad at 3:23 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

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