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When someone posts anon, how do you know who they are?

There have been some accusations in the last couple of weeks that I have seen where specific members are being accused of going anon. I'm curious how that conclusion is reached? Isn't buying into the blame thing what screwed with the atmosphere here for the last month?

This question isn't directed at anyone in particular, I'm just curious since I haven't been around here as often.


Asked by QuinnMae at 8:24 PM on Dec. 5, 2012 in About CafeMom

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  • Some are process of elimination, some are atrocious at typing and/or spelling and aren't aware of it. As for the "buying into the blame" thing, that's what blew it all up last night. Another member making accusations about someone then pretending it won't be discussed in the open, when the only real goal is to stir shit and try to make another mess like we had last month. The difference is this time, people are NOT buying into the blame and calling them out on it before it escalates like last time.

    And to clarify - it's not always the person accused of going anon, not even accounting for those who use more than 1 acct, but if someone sees their anon post getting someone else in trouble, the honorable thing to do would be to click edit and uncheck that anon box, rather than let someone else take the blame for their stirring.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 8:30 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • I'm SUPER smart like that. Psychic or something.

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 8:29 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Like Kimi,,,,,,,who always used commas,,,,,,,,,,,,instead of these...

    Or fiat
    Who types like
    She's writing poetry
    Bless her heart.

    Answer by FreeForAll at 8:32 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • People own up to it in other posts, other people have very distinct typing styles...

    Answer by FreeForAll at 8:27 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Does anyone think some people (for example, those that post a dissertation on how this site works and how to "out an anon" - day in and day out) have a little too much time on their hands?

    You mean basic processes of how something that simple are beyond you? How much time does it take to read something and recognize it as familiar? I'm always amused by trolls to try to deflect and suggest knowing what's going on takes some kind of special effort - have a reasonable amount of intelligence and an average memory, there's no work or time involved, any more than it takes you work or effort to remember what a character on a tv show did the week before to lead them to the place where they are this week.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:19 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • the way they type, certian words used all the time etc
    very easy to get tagged wehn you slip up and say that one thing you always do
    or throw those extra punctuations in there

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 8:31 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • People have different typing styles. If you know someone well enough, or i guess read enough of their posts, then even if they go anon you can still know who they are.

    Answer by SolaraDarkset at 8:40 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:32 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • if i typed an anon post
    everyone would know it was me

    have not been on much last few months
    but enough to get the gist of some anon drama

    i rarely can figure out who anyone is when they type anon, nor do i try
    on anon day, it was hard enough to remember to click the anon button, let alone figure out others

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:38 PM on Dec. 5, 2012

  • Most people have very distinct styles of writing but, they don't realize it. If they chronically use extra punctuation, they might be able to consciously stop doing it on a few answers.  But, they also have other tells such as grammar, syntax & spelling.  Also, a few people on here convey a certain "tone" in their writing so, they are easy to spot. 


    Answer by 3libras at 10:29 AM on Dec. 6, 2012