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This morning while I was putting n my make-up my 5 yr old DD comes in and says, Dance teacher says I need some of that. I tell her no she is to young. She starts crying saying "I am not going to be pretty then."
I told her she is already pretty and doesn't need make-up and asked her who told her that and she said her dance teacher.
I am fuming. Who they hell tells a 5 yr old that she isn't pretty without make-up? She had dance yesterday and I am glad I was told told or I would have went and knocked out the teacher. today I am calling the daycare (where the dance class is held) and asking the dame of this teacher and number (she has her own dance studio) and calling her and asking her what was exactly said.
I told DD if her teacher thinks this way then I am pulling her out of dance.
What do you think I should say?
Answer by mompam at 9:56 AM on Dec. 7, 2012
I agree with mompam. I would question your DD to find out as much of the context it was said in and then I would form my questioning around that. I would probably be super pissed at first (like you are) and then cool down before talking to anyone so that I can be a little more objective, which is hard when you are talking about your child. And what kind of 5 year old wears makeup? Why would those words even be uttered to the children in the first place?
Anyhow, in cases like these, context is everything and young children process things differently. Most 5 year olds I know break out with drama when their friends don't want to play what they want to play, and all of a sudden "everybody hates me". But that's just my experience.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:00 AM on Dec. 7, 2012
I agree you need to speak to the teacher... but in dance they wear pretty heavy make up for performances... even at that age. It's part of the culture of dance. Get the full story... it might be that the teacher told here she needs it for a performance at some point and she was telling them how pretty there were going to dress up (make up being part of that package).
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