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Why the hypocrisy?

There are so many women who are so passionate about breast feeding, they will verbally and emotionally abuse complete strangers if they even suspect that person didn't "try hard enough" to bf. It's as if they expect anyone who didn't to hand over their complete medical records in order to justify the decision. And there are many more who aren't that militant, but will still turn their nose up at someone who discusses formula, equating it to laziness.

So why is it so many of these same women who act as if formula feeding is like peeing in the swimming pool go on to feed their ebf babies pop tarts and hot dogs and granola bars and fruit snacks and Capri Sun and chicken nuggets when they can eat solids? Why be so insistent that everyone do it your way for the first year (or 2 or 3), and then spend the next 20 feeding them crap that's far worse than anything you'll find in formula?

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Asked by NotPanicking at 2:07 PM on Dec. 7, 2012 in Parenting Debate

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  • shrugging  That's all I got.  I don't know why people do the things they do.  But, I guess they justify all of their actions to themselves in some form or another. 


    Answer by 3libras at 2:11 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • Good question. I've been berated before (by strangers and people I know) about never breast feeding. It is beyond obnoxious and annoying and my usual response to assholes like this is mind your own fucking business. I can not stand busy bodies!

    Answer by Nos4 at 2:14 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • Because people are assholes! No other reason than that.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 2:18 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • Thats a good question... Ive wondered why some of the militant BF moms will feed themselves a bunch of crap, including drinking alcohol, and taking fairly risky meds, but while blow a gasket over formula!!! It makes you shake your head, and just walk away because there is no reasonin with illogic like that!!

    Answer by Nimue930 at 2:20 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • I honestly feel like some of those hard-core pro-breastfeeding women are less about the health of their children and more about "look what a good mother I am". In other words, I feel they see the ability to breastfeed more as a commendation of their mothering skills rather than a natural way to feed their offspring. They want it to be a badge of honor saying they are better because they endured the time, effort and inconvenience of breastfeeding.

    Answer by hootie826 at 2:21 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • Sorry don't have an answer for you. I never ever thought of breast feeding when I was having babies. Didn't want to have to be their 24/7 for the child and the only one who could feed the baby.

    Answer by louise2 at 2:26 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • it is funny isnt it? i wasn't a breastfeeder and yet somehow the stars have aligned as such that my kids will choose an apple or yogurt over juju beans or cheese doodles anyday. it certainly has nothing to do with how ive raised them thus far though as im sure those militant breastfeeders will conclude.

    Answer by tnm786 at 2:36 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • I have a medical condition that prevented me from breast feeding. Honestly even if I didn't I would have chosen formula anyway. I did get alot of raised eyebrows and obnoxious comments from people about not bf. I didn't wanna have to explain my medical issues in detail to every nosy asshole who thought I was a bad mom so I just tuned them out. I never even think to ask someone how they choose to feed their baby cuz it's really none of my freaking buisness. Half the time I think they ask just so they can go on talking about it for an hour so they feel good about themselves. I don't know why everyone feels so entitled to pry into people's personal decisions then berate them for it. Especially when it's a total stranger. It seems like no matter what choices you make for raising your children there will always be somebody waiting to let you know how you are a horrible mother.

    Answer by LBoogie0617 at 2:44 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • I can only say because they have an Holier than thou attitude and the most that are hateful about are not doing it for the well being of the child in my opinion they are doing it to fit in and keep up with this or that. The ones that truly do it for the benefit of the child would be caring, supportive and try to positively coach a person who couldnt (just in case they could help them if they wanted to BF).

    So in a nutshell they are asshats!

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 2:47 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

  • Short answer? People are stupid.

    Long answer? Cuz they're bitches who have no life and need to put down other people to make themselves feel better.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 2:59 PM on Dec. 7, 2012

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