A friend of mine, who is a Christian and a powerhouse of an advocate for families who have children with special needs, linked this essay to Facebook.
I've heard the cliché too, that "special kids go to special parents". Of course, as an atheist, I disagree with that on several levels - starting with the notion that there is some higher power matching kids to parents. If I were a believer, though, I'd still disagree.
From the wonderful essay linked above: If you want something better to say, try, “You don’t have to be a special parent to love this special child, but loving them will transform you in ways you can’t imagine!” because that is the truth!
And that IS the truth. There is nothing special about me, but I can say that raising a child with autism is an experience that has taught me so much, and fundamentally changed me - I'd like to think it's made me better.
Think about it. If there were a deity with a list of, or some sort of "plan" for, kids who had certain disabilities, temperaments, IQs, or whatever, and he were matching those kids with prospective parents, what does that mean?
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