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Accepting it as inevitable and trying to see the good in the bully?Answer Question
Answer by frogdawg at 9:18 PM on Dec. 10, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 10:35 PM on Dec. 10, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 10:36 PM on Dec. 10, 2012
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 5:52 AM on Dec. 11, 2012
That kind of reminds me of the comment made by Clayton Williams in the 1990 Texas Gubernatorial debate with Ann Richards, comparing rain to being raped. He suggested that, like rape, you can't do anything about it, so you may as well relax and enjoy it.
Bullies need to be held accountable. The fact is that kids who bully often grow up to be very maladjusted adults who have difficulties at work, getting and keeping jobs, difficulties in relationships, etc. There is no reason to ignore the bullying. It's not good for the victim, and it's not good for the bully.
Answer by jsbenkert at 1:41 PM on Dec. 11, 2012
Answer by Nos4 at 7:06 PM on Dec. 12, 2012
Answer by spiritguide_23 at 10:39 PM on Dec. 12, 2012
IDK. Last year my kids brought home something the school called a 'bully wheel', where it had different coping mechanisms for kids to deal with their bully before they went to a teacher. It gave them 8 or 9 suggestions of how to deal with someone they feel is bullying them and if they were to encounter someone that bullied them, they were to use these techniques to deal with the other child. One of them stated that if the child hits them or touches them in any way, they are to immediately go tell an adult and not fight back. I told my kids to fuck their suggestion (didn't use as strong language with them) and that if someone hit them, they are free to hit back. They looked at me horrified saying they would get in trouble at school and I told them that I would always have their back if they were defending themselves. They have every right to feel safe at school.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:38 AM on Dec. 13, 2012
Answer by Alisim at 1:14 PM on Dec. 13, 2012
Answer by Lovemyfamilyof8 at 11:55 AM on Jan. 4, 2013