Do you think the practice of the man asking the woman to marry him is outdated?

My husband and I definitely discussed things, looked at rings, etc. but he also did the whole surprise romantic evening, get down on one knee and ask me to marry him. Romance is never outdated!

I like the discussing it together thing. After all, the marriage is built on a partnership, so why should it be any other way.

im definitely one of those romantic, head in the clouds type of girls, i want to be asked and i want to be surprised. but this is only for me and my relationships. i dont think everyone should do it that way. i think each couple should do what works for them. congrats :)

oh LOL. i thought you meant you "just" went and picked out rings together haha. oops ;)

I'm too old fashioned to do the asking myself. We discussed marriage long before the proposal ever took place. I'd have loved to be surprised though.

Well someone has to bring it up so that would be a safe way of proposing. I like the man proposing but that is me. Dh called long distance knowing I would be royally ticked off (long story) and propsed. I yelled at him nd hung up. My mother said thatI I was stupid and that I would die alone. He called me again and I just hung up. Did I mention that I was very angry? Well it took me a month but I finally called him and said, "You never caled me back". He said, "I thought you didn't want to talk to me again"
And I just told him, "Three is the charm"
Iti is not that my mother thought he was te best match, she was just like that and switched side when she thought it would through in a wedge.

I would never ask a man to marry me, I am old fashioned like that. But my dh and I did the same thing you and your dh did. I like to give him shit about how he never proposed to me, but that is not relevant to our life;)

I would never ask a man to marry me, so I guess not I don't think it's outdated. I think it's romantical :)

I think most couples talk about their desire to be married, or the possibiity of it before a proposal ever happens. But some women still want the romantic, surprise, down on one knee type event, and some men want to give them that. They do it, even if both sides have discussed marriage, and pretty much know how the other feels. My DH and I discussed marriage, but he still surprised me with a proposal. I loved it. It's one of my nicest memories. And he told me later he was still nervous even though we had talked about it. He was still scared I might have changed my mind, or decided to wait, etc. Silly boy!! LOL