I am home for the holidays. We always stay with my husband's mother. My child is ADHD. He is a little hard to handle sometimes yes I know but he's only five years old. My brother-in-law is 30 years old & still lives at home with his mother. Enough said there. He is an alcoholic & ADHD himself. With no steady job, drivers license, or girlfriend he is ALWAYS home. Now my dh is a marine & he has to be in Florida for training til Dec 21st. So we are here without him til than. Since we flew here we have no car to leave & get out of the house. I am trying not to ruin Christmas for everyone but as a Mother my children come first. I don't care if I have to I will hurt this man if he hurts my child. When he drinks I have to put my children in our room & lock the door. We baracade ourselves in our room so we don't have to deal with him drunk. He is awful drunk. He hallucinates, swears constantly, gets mean, & he breaks stuff. He has fallen asleep with food cooking. This is insane.
He is so mean to my five year old. He will try to play with him one night by tossing around a football or throwing pillows but the next day if my five year old says two words to him he'll say "LEAVE ME ALONE" or "GET AWAY FROM ME". I already reached the point to snapping. I have already talked to him about how he is treating my son & nothing has changed. Last night I flipped on him. I was changing my 10 month old's diaper. My five year old likes to be a good helper & big brother. He asked if he could help. I told him that it was messy & I was almost done. He said he'd get me a plastic bag to put the stinky diaper in. I said ok. At my house the plastic bags are under the sink. So of course he runs straight to the sink to look for one. I told him that his mimi keeps them in a bag holder. He didn't understand of course. I was pointing at the bag holder but he thought I was pointing at the dirty dipaer next to me.
He ran over & picked up the dirty diaper & ran back to the sink to find a plastic bag. By than I was trying to get my 10 months diaper back on while she was rolling from me. So I couldn't get up & go help him. My brother-in-law came in the kitchen & saw my five year old with the diaper in his hand & looking under the sink. Not even knowing the situation he grabbed my son's arm & held him up by his elbow in a VERY uncomfortable manner & started walking him towards me. He said in a screaming manner "YOUR NOT PUTTING A DIRTY DIAPER UNDER THE SINK". Without thinking I jumped up & smacked my brother-in-laws hand to drop my child. I lost it. Of course I could smell alcohol on his breath. My husband's entire family is so naive towards this man. 70% of them defend him. What can I do but be the bad guy? This man is hating me more & more every day.
That's fine. I'd rather his whole family hate me than let my baby suffer through that. I don't want them to hate me but what can I do??? Please help!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:21 AM on Dec. 17, 2012 in General Parenting
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