I am at a loss on what to do about my 9 year old. He is my oldest so this is new to me. For the most part all of my kids are good and well behaved put these days my son is starting to get a mouth on him, will make a noise or complain if I ask him to do something and has an excuse for EVERYTHING!!! He also "forgets" to do his chores and what he is told to do. I know every child goes thru stages and this very well could be another one but how do you nip it in the butt before it gets out of hand? He has been getting things taken from him for his actions and of course has been getting yelled at which makes me feel so guilty!!! I'm at a loss...he is pushing all my buttons!!! Any ideas??? Thank you!!!
First off, I'm sending you hugs! I have three older children who have gone through this stage. I want to stress how important it is to keep your control (near impossible at times I totally understand), whatever you have to do, DO NOT YELL. They get more mouthy, tune you out, and come to totally disrespect you. I say this from experience and am NOT judging you! Sit down with him and make a behavior house rules chart and a chore chart (so that it is written down and he is less likely to "forget"). Let him know what the ramifications for his actions will be if he disobeys. BE CONSISTENT!! It is very easy to just give in. On that same chart, be sure that there is a reward for good behavior, (when you talk with him ask him what he would like to work towards, a trip to a local theme park, a fishing trip....) and he has to earn that with so many good behavior points and remembering his chores points. (continued).........
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