What would you do if your husband lies to you? My husband has lied to me our whole relationship. Granted its just about the fact that he smokes. He always says he "quits" and then I find a pack or something, and he denies it and then gets in an argument with me and makes it my fault. I dont know what to do anymore.
I don't harp on my husband about smoking. I used to smoke myself and it is incredibly addictive. I am not saying you shouldn't have an opinion... just that it wont happen for real until HE makes that decision. And when tallying up deception and such- well smoking just doesn't strike me as a super huge horrible thing... as in if you were more accepting of him, he wouldn't lie. But because he is addicted (and always will be even when he quits) lying becomes self preservation to the drug and not a intended deception to his wife. The lying to the wife part is secondary to the need for the drug if that makes sense. The brain only thinks about the need for the chemical.
Answer by CooksWife at 4:49 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 4:51 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
Hmmm if you had a favorite girlfriend and you husband asked you to quit speaking to her... and made it a make or break thing for peace in the home... and she called on occasion still... would you go out of your way to discuss it with him? I am not saying you wouldn't respect his wishes but many women put their husbands in these situations without realizing how it would feel if the roles were reversed, kwim?
Answer by CooksWife at 4:52 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
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Answer by jen_wikstrom at 4:56 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
Omg op! You told him you would leave him over lying about smoking? Wow.... I get that lying upsets you. Maybe you should go to a smoking cessation class yourself and hear what some of the people there are going through. It's a horrible degrading, often compared to the addiction of heroin, situation. And your damn right you lie if you feel like you have messed up and let down the one person on earth who's opinion you care about the very most. Good grief. And then to threaten to leave all over a lie that is completely designed to seek approval, wow.
Answer by CooksWife at 4:59 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
Answer by jen_wikstrom at 5:01 PM on Feb. 12, 2009
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