My husband who has been amazing for the last 18 years together and 12 years married told me 8 weeks ago that he does not love me the same. We started going to counseling and he said he does not want reconciliation and he is not in love with me does not want to be intimate with me and is not sure if he wants to be with me and he needs a break. After many times of PLEADING with him telling him I love him and want reconciliation and want our marriage and our boys 8 & 10 for us all to be a family and I'm willing to continue counseling work on our debt, work on the way I communicate he still says that he is not there. He says that he does not want a divorce but needs space from me. I told him that he can have the space and packed his bag and he left to go to his moms house. He calls and text's me about plans with the boys and asked that I tell our family that we both decided to separate. I'm still so in love with him!Answer Question
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 7:48 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Answer by SpiritedWitch at 7:48 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Answer by feralxat at 7:50 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Answer by older at 7:51 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
he wants you to tell family and friends that it is mutual??
no, i would not say that we both decided to separate
he is passing the buck and taking guilt off himself
he is seeing another woman?
sounds a bit like that
Answer by fiatpax at 7:54 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Do not let him do this to you. Either he wants you or doesn't want you. No in between. This was not your idea. Do not tell your family this was mutually agreed upon.
I so not beleive in seperations. We work it out together under the same roof as husband and wife or we don't.
Go on with your life with out him. Tell him you are through with his BS. JMO
Answer by louise2 at 7:57 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Answer by Alisim at 8:33 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Is he gay? Why else this change of heart after so many years? I think it is VERY selfish of him to not give you a legitimate reason. To break up a family because HE needs more space? I feel bad for your boys. I hope you can give them the support they need & I would turn to MY family (Mom & sister/brothers) for the support YOU need. God Bless :(
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 9:07 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Find things away from him that interest you. You can't make him stay, so focus on expanding your own interests. Counseling for yourself is a good idea.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:08 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
Answer by peterpaul01 at 9:21 PM on Dec. 27, 2012
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