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What do I do? She's never been like this before. She colored on her walls last night so I took away her crayons. She ripped the wings off a toy butterfly so I took that away, and she just threw a stuffed animal so I took that away.
Now she's kicking the couch screaming no over and over again. I honestly don't know what to do. She's not listening to my golden motherly advice. I think taking away her toys is giving her more attention than naughty behavior should get and if I keep telling her she's being naughty she's just going to do it more?
Answer by daylily888 at 2:37 PM on Dec. 28, 2012
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Answer by baconbits at 2:50 PM on Dec. 28, 2012
She's itching for attention. How about asking some relatives to take her out to do some fun things a for a few hours here & there. After I had the baby, my sister took my Son once a week for a few hours. Like out to dinner, a movie, a park, the beach or just for a ride when she went shopping. It broke up the monotony for him, gave him a little extra attention & he usually got a little toy too! MY DH would take him on a fun day on the weekend. They went to the zoo, the aquarium & grocery shopping. It will settle down soon. Then when the baby starts to walk & gets into the bigger siblings toys it's a whole new game! Hang in there & try to get some extra sleep since we rub off on the kids too. Maybe ask your SO to go to bed a little later or wake up a little earlier so you can rest.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:54 PM on Dec. 28, 2012
i liked the ignore strategy
but not when way out of control
she has a rival for your attention now, i am guessing she wants your attention, and being really naughty is working for her (to a point)
when she figures out that when she is really good, she gets more of your attention- (hopefully) watch her turn into a great helper
3 can be a bit young to get into the 'helper' mode, more kids like this helper thing at 4 and up
so have to give her attention when she is good
good luck, she will settle, it is a stage
Answer by fiatpax at 3:06 PM on Dec. 28, 2012