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I have been with my bf for over 2 years. He has a 5 year old daughter who is unbearable. She's spoiled, smart mouthed and hateful. But her Dad and Grandmother thinks its all funny ad cute. I do not. I do not exist when she is around. I cannot sit, talk to, or even sit beside my bf. currently I haven't been spoken to in 2 hours. She drives me crazy and I usually count down the hours until its time for her to go home. That's horrible that I have to feel that way, and I do want to love her buying just can't. I'm almost to the point of packing my stuff and leaving my soul mate over his bratty kid. I've tried to talk to her dad about this but he gets mad and tells me to get out of his house. Help!Answer Question
Answer by wendythewriter at 9:10 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
There isn't a lot of options. He's her dad and the parent. Are there any activities you can do with her that would help improve the relationship. Maybe you can ask your bf to help work on one thing about his daughter because you want to improve your relationship. It's difficult without really knowing what she says or does.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:14 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
Answer by funlovinlady at 9:57 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
Answer by NannyB. at 10:04 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
Why would you want to stay in an unbearable situation? As a parent, you know you should put your child 1st. He may be overcompensating & looking the other way on things, b/c his time w/ her isn't what it used to be. If he doesn't see a problem w/ her behavior, then you're fighting a losing battle. If you can't figure out a way to improve things with this little spawn of your soul mate, then I suggest you end things sooner rather than later. GL
Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:15 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
Answer by funlovinlady at 10:31 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
If you can't even agree on your parenting styles, guess what will happen if the 2 of you have a child together?! You will be the sole disciplinarian & they will run to daddy to get whatever they want. You will grow to resent him, only now you're more invested b/c you have his child now. I'm sorry you have to much time invested in this guy, but honestly, what future do you have w/ a man who does not at least meet you half way on the basic fundamentals?
Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:31 AM on Dec. 29, 2012
And that's assuming he agrees to another child, which is what YOU want. That is another strong urge that will cause you to resent him, if you are denied fulfilling it.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:33 AM on Dec. 29, 2012