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My daughter is 11 and she is a bit shy. I would like to see her get involved in ANY community or school activities. I have suggested art classes, sports-every one of them, music, student council etc. and she refuses to join anything. Her friends are involved but she will not. She does not hang out with other children after school because they are all involved in something. We live in a small community and I believe that being involved in outside activities is healthy. She just wants to be with me.Answer Question
Maybe she should just try going as a "guest" of one of her friends to one of the club meetings/activities. Once she checks it out, she might like it. Does she have friends over or go to their houses? If it's extreme shyness or possibly something else, you may want to talk to her Dr. about it.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:23 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
It must be hard to try to make new friends. Sometimes they need a gentle nudge from us. And before they know it, they're having fun. GL :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:42 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:47 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by But_Mommie at 8:58 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by missanc at 9:21 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
Whatever you do just be cautious... pushing her outside her comfort zone could be disastrous... and have to opposite effect!! Think of her feelings as well. Just b/c you think it's a great idea or activity doesn't mean it's right for her (says someone who works with HS kids, & has for years!).
Answer by Crafty26 at 10:17 AM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 5:38 PM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by spiritguide_23 at 3:07 PM on Jan. 1, 2013