We have a cat that comes around our house and the kids love her! They are both allergic to dogs so we can't nor do we have one. I suggested to dh that we get a cat b/c they were not allergic to it, and neither is he b/c I did a little experiment by letting them play with it then go in and love on daddy. hehehe. I know that was probably mean. Anyway, Dh has never had a cat he has always had dogs and is allergic to them. He said he would think about it and did he came to the conclusion that he hates cats and since being on his own he noticed how disgusting animals were. Anyway, his mom wants the kids to have a pet just as much as I do so she gave me cat food to feed my neighbors indoor/outdoor cat (the one they play with.) I did not do this b/c I did not want to make dh mad. He found the cat food and flipped out on me! He told me that if I ever brought a cat into the house he would move out and that he would not stay in the house with that thing, but he wouldn't be leaving me. I told him he was being silly and it was just a cat, would he really leave me over a cat? he said since I wont stop talking about it he actully started to think about where to live! and that if I wouldn't stop talking about it that he would ignore me or hang up on me whenever I brought it up. I am upset b/c he said he would leave me over somthing so trivial and small. Idk, I brought up pets today and asked about a ferret b/c he was once going to get me one, and said he spoke to someone and they said the one she has is a terror and tore up her house so now no ferret. I love animals and I want a pet. Maybe I should stop making him angry. I am afraid if I don't quite I am a pushing him out the door, and he WILL leave b/c I'm nagging. I don't feel he has a vaild argument for not wanting a pet. I have been in houses were people have animals and you would never know unless you saw it... *sigh* He got so upset that I brought up this cat that his voice broke and it sounded like he was going to cry! he said I'm not listening to him, but I am trying to I just think he is being silly, ya know.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:44 PM on Dec. 31, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by amandajoy21 at 7:50 PM on Dec. 31, 2012
You can't force a pet on someone. To be fair it's not like he's hidden his feelings, you've known all along how he feels. Also just because the kids aren't allergic to that cat doesn't mean when one is actually living in your house full time it won't be a problem. I never had any pets growing up and I wished I had but it's wrong to bring a pet in a home if it possibly need to be rehomed later because everyone isn't on board.
Try fostering pets first this way you aren't keeping the animals from finding potential forever homes, it's a way to ease into it and maybe your DH will find one that fits his personality. It's also a good way to really test your kids for allergies.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:55 PM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 8:04 PM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by m-avi at 9:28 PM on Dec. 31, 2012
Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:38 PM on Dec. 31, 2012