After the recent school shooting, I have to wonder how Adam Lanza was brought up. Was he sheltered, catered to, completely spoiled? Did his parents ever tell him "No?" what did he do for a living? He was a man, so to speak, did he have a job? What did he do in his spare time?
At his age, I had a full time job, lived on my own, made my own car and rent payments, and everything else in between. I think we are all afraid to make our kids work and take responsibility for what they have and who they are. Somehow, we think we are being better parents if it's handed to them. If kids did more, they would get into less trouble. There are jobs out there for people who want to work..I delivered pizzas after working 40 hours as a teller. I then took on a job at a factory on the weekends. You do what you gotta do, and if you want things, this is how you get them.
Now that I have kids, I would NEVER buy them a car, cell phone, or anything else they should be paying for themselves. How are they going to learn to be responsible when we continue to enable them? What is their future? Are we really doing them any favors?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:38 AM on Jan. 4, 2013 in General Parenting
Answer by m-avi at 11:29 AM on Jan. 4, 2013
i think not giving children space to make mistakes and learn from them and a lack of responsibility can produce young adults that feel entitled, but in no way do i think this translates to snapping and going on a killing spree.
i agree with girlwithC ....."I think such actions are a result of rage & pain"
spoiling without responsibility can lead to entitled attitude but not mental illness
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