Do you ever feel empty in your marriage / relationship?
After 3 years of fights, I have reached a point of feeling empty and lost.
We are apart, i.e. I spend most of my days in a bedroom, and he's locked up
in his own room.
We seem to disagree in everything, and if we try to talk, he'll say it's all my fault...
I shouldn't get upset when as newlyweds he told me he can't have my pictures in HIS HOUSE,
because he's used to having pictures of his mother and niece and blood lines only....
One YEAR after our wedding, he still had his nieces' pics in his wallet, but not mine. And his nieces's picture as a wallpaper on his cell, but not ours as newlyweds....
I shouldn't get upset to see the physical touching with his best friends' wives, and definitely not associate the friendly "bo@b brushing" and naughty jokes with his subscription to adult websites on "seduced by best friends' wives".
It doesn't mean a thing if I didn' get a Christmas gift (2 years now) from him or his family, when I was as generous as I could to his entire extended family.
If his mother intimidates me with comments like "do you sleep with your clothes at night?" or "hey son, look at this TV person, isn't she gorgeous, superblonde and skinny?" this doesn't mean that she doesn't like me. Well, she has never said anything nice about me in 3 years but this is just a coincidence....
And she can gossip about every person in the neighbourhood, but it's ok if she doesn't ask me about my mother.... Yes, she doesn;t know my mother's name, after 3 years together, but it's not really important.
He has isolated me from my family and friends..... during my relocation, the first thing he did was to throw away the Skype Camera, to make sure that I won't talk with anyone.... till I get a job.
When I got a job, my in-laws sent us a "DELAYED WEDDING GIFT", .... yeah, what a coincidence.. !
I FEEL SO EMPTY, SCARED AND LOST. HE SAYS IT'S OUR FAULT THAT I FEEL NEGLECTED, CAUSE THEY REALLY ARE NICE TO ME. HE SAID I DON'T COOPERATE WITH HIS FAMILY, BUT I DON'T THINK I HAD A CHANCE OF BEING ACCEPTED BY THEM.
Do you think that the above examples show that I'm a jealous person, or is it a sign that he's not ready to be with a woman other than his mom and niece???
Please help !
Asked by Anonymous at 2:03 PM on Jan. 5, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:08 PM on Jan. 5, 2013
Answer by Anonymous at 2:08 PM on Jan. 5, 2013
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 2:12 PM on Jan. 5, 2013
Fly away little birdie. That sounds like HELL
Answer by Anonymous at 2:13 PM on Jan. 5, 2013
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Answer by spiritguide_23 at 3:42 PM on Jan. 5, 2013
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Answer by booklover545 at 10:39 PM on Jan. 5, 2013