I'm a 32 year old Mom of three. I got remarried in 2012. My new husband has kids about the same age as mine & they get along great! Our problem is my husband's ex wife. Since I began dating my husband a year ago, she has made it her mission to be difficult, and hateful. My husband has custody of their oldest son. I'm very close to him since he lives here & is an awesome kid and that makes his mother mad. Their other kids are with us most of the time, too, because she doesn't want to be a parent. She won't even buy them clothes and food...but she has money for brand new iPhone 5. My step son wears the same clothes to school every day unless he stays with us. :( We let him stay the night when he asks, so we know he has a bath and goes to bed. Anyhow, the ex is constantly harassing my husband about me. Not long ago she said I'm not their step mother, and they aren't making better grades because of me... Um, okay? I do help them with their homework, and their behavior and grades have improved since I moved in last January. I thought that was a good thing? I'm not going to ignore her children or stop being proud of them because she doesn't like me. Their oldest said she questions him regularly about our life and even threatened to ground him if he didn't let her have his phone so she could spy on our Facebook pages. He also told us that she thinks its funny to argue because she thinks its going to cause us problems. He doesn't like to go to her house because he's tired of her harassing us. I didn't take my husband from her-they were divorced for years before I came around but she despises me. I honestly think she needs mental help. She recently offered to pay for pictures, & wanted my husband to pose with her and their kids. He told her no because they aren't a family. He said if he was in them, it'd be me & him and the kids and she got mad. I just don't know how to handle her outbursts and constant drama. We just want to concentrate on our marriage, & do the best for the kids and not have to deal with her antics. Any advice?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:16 PM on Jan. 6, 2013 in Relationships
Ignore her, she is sad and desperate. You can't change her, neither can your ex so don't let her become a wedge. Feel bad for the kids but let them see you taking the high ground. This has not escaped the attention of the oldest son, that is why he tells you what she does. He trusts you and knows your the better person. You've already won this war.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 4:11 PM on Jan. 6, 2013
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Answer by gdiamante at 5:25 PM on Jan. 6, 2013
It's always the other woman causing problems. I betcha she feels the same way about you. Sounds like you are jealous of her.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:33 PM on Jan. 6, 2013
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Answer by ohwrite at 6:29 PM on Jan. 6, 2013
How in the hell do you even know the whole story? This Anon could be the other woman. I'm not buying it without hearing from the other mom.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:43 PM on Jan. 6, 2013
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