I have a fairly close friend I guess I've unintentionally hurt. We used to be very close, even dated at one time, and were coworkers. We'd go out to dinner a lot and hang out together. But then I changed jobs and had a baby, and our lives went separate ways. He moved to another city, and most of our contact has been by instat message or phone call. Still, we talked often and about important things. Eventually, he broke up with his girlfriend, and he's been really gloomy and depressed about it So he talks about not having friends, and being lonely, and how hard the holidays are when you're by yourself. I listened and tried to be as empathetic as I could be. But he started in on Christmas Eve with the same old moany groanies, and I couldn't deal with it. I told him I'd be glad to talk about something else, or I'd be glad to talk to him about his feelings on another night, but I was getting Santa stuff ready for my daughter and trying hard to have an upbeat outlook on the holidays. Well, he just quit talking to me at all. Not good night, or okay thanks, or merry Christmas, or go to hell. He signed off the computer, and that was that. I checked with him in a few days and he said he wasn't exactly mad at me, but I was added to the list of friends he couldn't count on completely. That hurt, since we've known each other ten years and I've never once cut him short till now. I've supported him through the break-up of his long term relationship and a rebound fling that didn't end well, through losing his job, his mom having cancer, his decision to go to grad school, all sorts of stuff. Was I out of line? Should I have let him talk to me about his loneliness again even if it cast a cloud over my Christmas Eve? What should I do now, if anything? I tried apologizing for the fact that he was hurt, but I couldn't apologize for cutting off the conversation because I felt I had to do that for my own sanity. Maybe that was selfish, but I do miss my friend. And it hurts because sometimes it feels as if people think you're great and love you plenty as long as you can keep on giving, but then when you're tapped out, everything changes. Please forgive my rambling.
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:56 AM on Jan. 7, 2013
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Answer by NannyB. at 9:22 AM on Jan. 7, 2013
And for the benefit of OP, the cartoon reads...:Well aren't you just a fun filled little lollipop triple dipped in psycho"
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