Since I began dating my now husband, I've noticed that he is very uncomfortable about me going places without him. At first I thought it was cute, and because it was a new relationship. He told me that his ex wife cheated repeatedly when she went out with friends, at work and other times. (He found concrete evidence) I love spending time with him, but some times I'd like to go do my own thing with my cousin, or have girls night out. When I have left the house and met a male friend of mine, I thought it was all fine. I'd had that friend for years and normally my DH was invited. This one time DH's kids were here, so I went alone. He whined a little bit, but I thought he was joking. Then about 45 minutes after I left he showed up at the restaurant. He got a sitter so he could come. Another time he showed up at my Mom's friends house unannounced. I'm not doing anything wrong, but I feel like he doesn't trust me. Or maybe he is very protective of me? I was a victim of attempted acquaintance rape that he blames himself for because we had argued the night it happened, I needed a breather, went to see a friend, and that friend drugged me. Anyhow, I dont put myself in bad situations, but he is kind of hurting my feelings, like he thinks I'm going to cheat. Now I just got a job, and there are men there. I'm worried that he will come sit at my job! He wouldn't even let me go alone to look for jobs! I dont go anywhere alone these days- I havent driven in 8 months. I have never done him wrong and would never. How can I get him to relax and trust that I'm not going to mess up our marriage?
Answer by PrettyLady80253 at 1:01 AM on Jan. 8, 2013
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Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 6:03 AM on Jan. 8, 2013
You know now it wasn't a new relationship thing. Time ti nip it in the bud. Tell him how you feel about him hovering all the time. Never letting you go anywhere alone. And that is has to stop.
If you can't get him to stop. You might need to end the relationship. This kind of stuff will get worse. Does he work?
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