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Why do people who do not belive in G-d care if I pray for them ?

I have had atheist ask me to not pray for them . I don't understand this. If G-d is not real then my prayers are nothing .

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Asked by hadassah1582 at 1:01 AM on Jan. 10, 2013 in Religious Debate

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  • Well really that depends on why you are praying for me. Is it because I am an atheist (not really but...) and you are praying to save my soul then yes it would offend me that you cannot just accept that I choose to believe something different then you. Do you pray for your muslim friends or pagan/wiccan friends because they believe differently?

    If it is because my family is going through a rough time then that is different because you are simply telling me you are thinking about us and hoping we make it through it. That is not a problem for me and I tell friends and family that they are in my thoughts all the time when they are going through rough times.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:02 AM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • Is it that hard for you, OP to respect someone's wishes? Pray to your heart's content, but if someone has asked you not to pray for them and you do it anyway and THEN tell them about then you're just being an asshole.

    Answer by Nos4 at 11:08 AM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • To me as an atheist, it's the equivalent of saying "I'm going to do absolutely nothing for you." when someone says they are or are going to pray for me. Prayer is the other person PRETENDING to do something to help when they are, in reality, doing nothing that will help or change the situation.

    Answer by witchqueen at 12:03 PM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • Probably because you are being condescending.


    Answer by beeky at 1:38 PM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • I don't need prayers. I work things out for myself. I deffinatly do not need salvation and honestly that's probably the only thing that I find offensive, for a person to know my beliefs and yet still tell me how they pray for god to work and change me. It's not really the prayer that's offensive it's the mentality of the person.

    Answer by skinnyslokita at 6:04 PM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • Maybe these will help you understand:


    Answer by MamaK88 at 6:25 PM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • Would you be offended if I as a witch said I preformed a spell on your behalf?

    Answer by sha_lyn68 at 9:43 PM on Jan. 10, 2013

  • Because I see it as arrogant to even consider doing it, let alone informing me of you intent to do so. By doing that, you are stating that you do not respect my wishes or my beliefs, and therefore have only your own selfish desires in mind when praying for me, you are really not considering my own well being.

    Besides, in some religions it's not only rude or disrespectful to pray for someone else to a god they don't associate themselves with, it can actually be considered harmful. In other words, if they believe in another god(s), then you might just be doing more harm to them than good. It's the refusal to understand such concepts that pisses people off.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 12:07 PM on Jan. 11, 2013

  • Maybe because they usually get the "I'll pray for you" in a demeaning, holier-than-thou way, as in "you're so lost, I'll pray you find G-d" or something like that. I'd probably be pissed too if someone used something that's supposed to be selfless and positive to demean my beliefs.

    Answer by momto2boys973 at 7:01 PM on Jan. 11, 2013

  • I find it compassionate when my Christian friends pray for me. They feel helpless and need to do something. That is what their faith and beliefs say that they do in that situation. I don't want to be judged on where my life path has led me to my beliefs and I won't judge others for it either. If you feel like you need to pray for me, pray on! :)

    Answer by 1CopaceticMama at 7:50 AM on Jan. 12, 2013

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