I hate hate hate when guys ask is it mine , so I feel like a shit head but if you have a less than responsible son and a similar girl . And they tell you they had a baby ( keeping the whole thing secret and son didn't even know she was pregnant ) Would you have some doubt ? I want to be supportive but I do not want to fall in love with a child and then have it rippped from my life at a later date !
I hate as a woman questioning another woman but I am a mom too! What do you think ladies ?
Answer by mamaNrubenBFF at 10:59 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by kboney29 at 11:02 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by gitanomadre at 11:08 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
I totally understand how you feel. This is my opinion, your son is an adult now, treat him like it. Meaning, sit him down and express openly, honestly and respectfully how you feel about the whole situation. If you aren't helping to support this baby, then it's time you "step off". I mean this with NO disrespect. One of the hardest things for a Mom is to be a Mom of an adult child. Sometimes as a Mom you lead and sometimes you follow. Now is the time you follow. All you can do is express how you feel and then follow. If he unwisely refuses to get a DNA for his own protection, you can't force it. Unless you do so secretly behind your sons back, but then how does that help the situation?!! You just have to support his decision, no matter what it is, and love the child anyway. Think of it this way, if the precious baby isn't your Grandbaby biologically, think of the love seeds you have planted into his/her life!!
Answer by blessed5x at 11:10 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by MommyMel03 at 11:12 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by Soriano at 11:14 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by gitanomadre at 11:19 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by blessed5x at 11:23 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
Answer by gitanomadre at 11:56 AM on Feb. 13, 2009
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