Last Sunday we took her out to eat and I spoke from my heart and told her that it hurt my feelings when the only time she calls is when she wants something,and how she needs to start doing for herself instead of expecting everyone else to wait on her hand and foot. I told her that if she shows initiative to help herself 1st,that other people would be more willing to help her. She is suppose to be exercising,but she barely gets up from her chair.
I told her last Sunday to make sure that she got all her errands done since we were out. I asked her 3 times if she was sure that there was anything else that she needed. She says no. Ok then.
She calls me Tuesday and asks if I can bring her stamps. Sigh.
We have one car. My husband takes it to work,so for me to get them,I'd have to take the bus to the post office,then walk the 1/2 mile to her house,wait a half hour at least for the next bus,then ride that one for almost another half hour. Total time,close to 2 hours,more if I stay to visit.
My husband works 12 hour shifts. I don't have the heart to ask him to go do this when he's exhausted.
Every week its something else with her. Every week I tell her make sure you get what you need.
She figures she needs it,I should jump.
Before anyone jumps onto the "but she's your mom" bandwagon,I have stories about my childhood that would curl your hair. She and I are semi estranged as it is. My family guilted me into what I already do now.
She doesn't just want company. If it weren't for needing us to take her grocery shopping,she'd be happy to never see us. If she doesn't get something out of the visit besides company,she wants nothing to do with it.
* Tuesday my husband worked 14 hours. When I told her we could maybe get them Wed or Fri,she got pissy and hurried off the phone. She wanted them NOW
Answer by Lilly829 at 2:52 AM on Jan. 12, 2013
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Answer by PartyGalAnne at 8:51 PM on Jan. 11, 2013
I honestly don't think she'd let herself starve to death. Her survival instincts would kick in & she'd get up and do for herself.
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