Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

1 Bump

We have been married 22 years and i was a house wife he makes $52,000 a year, kids r grown how much alimony will i get and for how long and if i start working now will they give me less alimony. should i wait to get a job till we r divorced or can i look now and not have it affect how much i will get?

i live in colorado

Answer Question
 
julie987

Asked by julie987 at 2:13 PM on Jan. 12, 2013 in Money & Work

Level 2 (6 Credits)
Answers (15)
  • Depends on your state.... some states don't award alimony

    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 2:17 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • It likely depends on the state you live in (and file for divorce in). I would contact an attorney and have them answer these questions as well. They will also want to know of any mutual funds, investments and retirement accounts as well.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 2:17 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • It will depend somewhat on the state you are in. Alimony is awarded to allow you time to become self supporting. Do you need to go back to school for a degree or to update skills? Think about long term. You don't want to get a job just to have one, think about how much you need to support yourself and what job/career will get you where you need to be.
    You really need to consult with an attorney to make sure you get what you are entitled to in that regard (think retirement plans, 401ks, etc.). If you don't need a job right now, I would wait at least until you speak with an attorney.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 2:18 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • You need to go talk to a lawyer about this. Why are you caring about alimony?  If you are divorcing and your kids are adult. Why do you want his money/tied to him still?


    Go get a job and get on with your life.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 2:23 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • Not much. Even Child support on $52,000 doesn't amount to enough to live on. Even if they gave you HALF of his income you couldn't live on that.
    If I were you I'd take some initiative and get a job.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:25 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • ask a lawyer in confidentiality. Delete this post.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 2:44 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • alimony = vagina money

    the kids are grown, if you divorce him you are not entitled to a dime. get a job. move on. you sound greedy.

    women wanted equal rights and but a still expect favoritism .
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 3:05 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • women wanted equal rights but still expect favoritism
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 3:07 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • "women wanted equal rights but still expect favoritism"

    I don't think this is about being a woman. It's about her putting her career on hold for years to raise the kids/maintain the house. If a man had done the same thing, he should be entitled to some money upon divorcing too - to allow him time to get his career started and to account for all the years that the working spouse was advancing in their career. It should work both ways, it's not about favoritism.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 3:25 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

  • women wanted equal rights but still expect favoritism

    That's is a shitty thing to say to this woman... she stayed at home for over 22 years.... it's going to be hard for her to find a job that will support her at this point. Some states don't recognize this... but some do.
    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 3:45 PM on Jan. 12, 2013

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.