I am troubled by this. I keep having dreams about my father who passed away four years ago. Usually in these dreams we are doing things like fishing or at a car race and he is talking to me and he tells me that he is sorry for dying that he misses me but that it was his time to go and that I should not be upset because he is happy.
Other times it's like he is in his coffin and someone shouts "OMG he isnt dead!" and we all find out that it was a mistake and that he was in a coma. A few other times he tells me that he faked his death to escape his financial issues, but now that his bills are paid off he has come back. This last one that I had last night, I called his cell phone and a woman I don't know answered. She introduced herself as his girl friend. I asked if I could speak to him, and she sounded annoyed, sighed and said, alright but just this one time because you really need to let your father rest now. I assumed that meant he was sleeping because he worked 3rd shift while alive. I did speak to him and it didn't make mush sense. I asked about his job and did he need me to help him because I was worried he might have another heart attack (Thats what killed him) and he said no that he only had one place to clean that night, then the rest of the conversation was jibberish, like he was half asleep or had Alzheimers of something, which he didn't, he was 59 when he died.
I don't understand these dreams. I have lost grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and never dream of them. Why do I keep dreaming of my father? I hate it, even though I love him but when I dream that he is still alive then wake up and reality hits, it's like losing him all over again. I wish that I could just accept his death and move on. I will always love him and I will never forget him, but I keep wishing that he were still alive because it breaks my heart every time I wake to find out that he is gone and I can't see him again.
Any advice? Any one else deal with this? Am I going nuts or is this normal? Shouldn't I be over it after 4 years?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:30 PM on Jan. 12, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by PMSMom10 at 10:39 PM on Jan. 12, 2013
Answer by staciandababy at 10:41 PM on Jan. 12, 2013
Answer by booklover545 at 1:18 AM on Jan. 13, 2013
Answer by Izsarejman at 10:37 PM on Jan. 12, 2013
you have unfinsished business with him
what issue was left unraveled
imo- it is your mind that is unsettled and not a loved one coming to visit
Answer by fiatpax at 11:10 PM on Jan. 12, 2013
Answer by jerseydiva at 11:14 PM on Jan. 12, 2013
Answer by kity-bity at 9:04 AM on Jan. 13, 2013
Answer by khedy at 12:34 AM on Jan. 14, 2013