Found out that DD's BMom was arrested last week for "Illegal Manufacture" of meth. I feel so sick to my stomach right now. I mean, I realized she wasn't exactly a great influence, but THIS?!?!?
So definitely, without a doubt, even if she doesn't go to jail/prison (currently out on bail), she is not welcomed at the visits...indefinitely. We will keep up visits with BMom's parents and DD's brothers, but no longer BMom.
As I've said around here before, DD honestly don't seem to pay much, if any attention to BMom at the visits (always more concerned about playing with brothers) and when she hasn't been there, it has never been a big deal......but now that it will be no more BMom, I'm not sure how to explain that to her.
Obviously need to keep things age appropriate (turns 7 next month), but yet at the same time, we need to make sure she understands that BMom did something seriously wrong. How in the world do you do that?
Not many times have I wished we had a closed adoption...but this is definitely one of them.
I called BMom's mom to schedule our visit for next month fully expecting her to let me know what happened (she has been very open and honest with me about what BMom has been going through these past couple of years...or so I thought). She didn't say a word about the arrest and I didn't want to yet bring it up until I knew exactly what I wanted to say. We talked about how BMom has been doing in her rehab and how BMom has been keeping out of trouble...all the while I know she's lying and the longer our conversation went, the more I was losing trust in her. I can only assume that she's hoping I don't find out because I told her that if BMom was involved in drugs, she would not be invited to the visits.....but how can I not find out being that what she did is a 1st degree felony and has a minimum prison term of 3 years in our state? Does she seriously think she'll be able to hide that there's no BMom at the vistis until DD is 10?
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