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How safe is online dating really?

I know people who have done it and they've lasted years, but truly how safe is it? I've always just seemed against it like it really isn't safe at all...

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:26 AM on Jan. 14, 2013 in Relationships

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  • It worked fine for me and that was how I met my husband. I never once had an experience where I feared for my safety. I was pretty smart about meeting people in public places. That's not to say I didn't meet a few oddballs. But I never felt unsafe. I would say it isn't any different from other forms of dating.

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 11:28 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • I guess it isn't any "less" safe than meeting a random person at a bar or the store. I would say that if I were dating, I would be meeting them several times in a public location.

    Answer by jerseydiva at 11:29 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • Awe well that is amazing. I am finally (after 2.5 years) starting to get over my ex and I'm ready to start talking and just meet new people.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:30 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • I guess that is also true. Either way when you first meet someone they are considered a stranger.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:32 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • Like with everything, there are risks and horror stories. You just have to be careful I guess. I never tried it, but my friends mother met her husband about 16 years ago online and they had three more children together

    Answer by tnm786 at 11:41 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • If done smart its very safe. I met most of my boyfriends online and my ex husband. I am stiff great friends with one of those ex husbands and have a good relationship with my ex husband

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:42 AM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • It depends on how you handle it. I tried it before. I would talk with the person online for a month or so, then would agree to meet in a very public restaurant for a dinner or something. If I didn't want to pursue it, I'd just leave after that with no guarantees. I gave the person no other personal information as where I lived, etc. If they called, I'd just block them. If they'd email, same thing. If I wanted to pursue it, we'd continue to meet in public places until I felt secure enough to do otherwise. I only had two guys that weren't good. One lied about his age, and I could plainly see that. The other was just weird. The others that I dated were Okay, but most thought of online dating as playing a game. It never lasted or led into anything other than just dating.

    I met my husband when I stopped looking for a date.... LOL!

    Answer by m-avi at 12:01 PM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • have to be smart meeting any new person, on line or in any other way

    if it seems odd or not right - trust your instincts

    Answer by fiatpax at 12:02 PM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • It's no different than any other way to meet someone. That guy you meet at the grocery store can be just as dangerous as a creep online.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 12:39 PM on Jan. 14, 2013

  • I'm always for online dating because thats how I met my husband. His mom met my best friends dad online and thats how I met my husband!

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 12:47 PM on Jan. 14, 2013

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