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I still keep in touch with my ex husband, who has a terminal neurological disease that is taking a long time to destroy him before it lets him die. Basically, his body doesn't work anymore except some limited use of one hand, but his mind is intact. It's really awful. He needs daily in-home care to be nourished, gotten in and out of bed, etc. I send sweets and treats now and then, since he can still enjoy tasting them, but because he's in Washington State and I'm halfway across the country, there's not much else I can do.
Anyway, he wrote me an e-mail the other day, which he does a few times a month, on a computer he operates by blinking his eyes. Amazing technology. But the e-mail pretty much told me how lonely he was because his sisters moved him up to Washington a little more than a year ago so he could be near them, but now they only visit once a week or a few times a month because they're busy with their own lives, and other than that it's just his caregivers. He likened it to being in solitary confinement with nothing to do. He even said he wished he would have killed himself while he still could. It broke my heart.
So, now I'm left with what to do. Should I say something to his sisters? They don't care for me much since their brother and I divorced, but that was years ago, and he was the one who told me to leave. Otherwise, I'd probably still be there. Or will I just make it worse for him if I pass along his note to them?
Sorry for the long post, but I'm really torn. And please, if you're going to tell me I shouldn't be talking to my exes, or some other bashing remark, keep it to yourself because I'm already broken up about this as it is and I don't need teeth and claws. Thanks in advance.
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Answer by jerseydiva at 4:41 PM on Jan. 14, 2013
Lucky you Ballad, you & I seemed blessed w/ the same annoying anon today. Must be nice to get such pleasure from stirring sh*t! Huh?!
Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:43 PM on Jan. 14, 2013
Oh how sad. I"m so sorry. Yeah, the sisters may not take it well, since they already aren't very fond of the messenger. I think I would tell him what Kristi said & he can decide what to do with that information. If he is serious about ending his suffering, then it will be his path to take. *hugs*
Answer by mrsmom110 at 4:21 PM on Jan. 14, 2013