I'm 37, I have 2 boys ages 1 & 2, and my husband I works out of town 10 days at time. We live near his parents who visit the kids when they want to and make me feel like I'm asking to much if I ask them to babysit while I run to the store. I don't really have friends here, we live in an upstairs 2 bdrm apt in the middle of town and there's not much to do here except a trip to Walmart so the kids and I are home a lot. We play and watch TV and do crafts sometimes but is that enough? My husband says I'm a shut in. I'd like to do more with my kids outdoors but they're both so young & hard to keep track of by myself if we go to a park or something. Am I just making excuses? The things he says makes me feel horrible. I'm with my kids 24/7 & I love them but I'm not sure if I can handle them both out by myself.Answer Question
Maybe when he is home you should leave the kids with him and go get some quality 'you time'. When you come home and they aren't changed and nothing has been done you can ask why he didn't go out and about with the kids. A nice long day of having to do the other person's job usually gives a nice lesson in humility.
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I had 3 kids under two years old ( twins and a younger daughter). Was I a bit of a shut in, heck yes I wasn't going to waste their nap time driving home from somewhere while they slept in the back seat. I needed that time. Every other day or so I'd take them to the library or a grocery store just to get out. I loved my library, We were there just about every other day. I couldn't loose any of them there and it gave me just enough time to get home feed them something, read to them and put them down for a nap. Also I joined a local MOPS ( mother of preschoolers) group, this was very helpful.
Have your DH watch them when he is in town, all by himself, for several days in a row, and see if he comes up with any better ideas.
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