I just found out that my youngest child qualifies for disability, I have one child already on disability because she is MRDD. My youngest is mild MRDD, PDD with autistic like features and ADHD. I work part time but have a terrible time getting baby sitters in the summer when they kids are not in school. They both go to a school for MRDD. I have them in summer programs, both get therapies and my youngest sees a psychologist and a therapist, so I am constantly having to take them to appointments. Not to mention the neurology appointments and then constantly being called at work by the school because my youngest has hit or bitten a student or teacher or done something else equally as bad. The sperm doner doesn't help with any of this and sees the kids for 1 hour every Saturday. He currently pays $2oo.oo a month in CS. The disability really helps me out a lot but now the sperm doner says that if my son is getting disability too then he should not have to pay the CS anymore.
He told me that if I don't go to JFS and ask to have it dropped that he will take me to court and have it dropped and make me pay the court fees since he is unemployed. So far his father has been paying his CS for him and he says its not fair of me to expect his father to have to pay that money when I don't need it.
The sperm doner says he cant and wont work because of his anxiety but refuses to apply for disability because he thinks that will make him look like less of a man, which makes no sense to me, but what ever.
I think he should have to pay something, even if its 10 bucks a month, or else he needs to give up his parental rights all together. Is that selfish of me? If you were in my shoes how might you handle this?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on Jan. 16, 2013 in Money & Work
Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:24 AM on Jan. 16, 2013
Answer by ohwrite at 9:29 AM on Jan. 16, 2013
Talk to a lawyer, however receiving disability is not an excess for not supporting your children. It is not your fault his father is paying his CS, it's his. Don't let him scare you. It costs more to raise children than what disability pays, it's only intended to be a supplement. He is still responsible for helping to finance his children's upbringing.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:52 AM on Jan. 16, 2013
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