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She and her boyfriend have been together 3 years. She moved out to California for this man just to find out that he'd been seeing other women sexually while she was still back in Utah but she forgave him of that because of their long relationship. Long story short she's 4 months pregnant and of course was expecting him to be happy since they've had a long relationship,have been living together for eight months and both have stable employment. He wants her to place the baby for adoption,which doesn't make any sense with them having stable housing,income and supposedly a stable relationship. She of course wants to keep the baby. I say little because she is younger then me but she's 21(she's also technically my stepsister but it's been almost 10 years so whatever).
So she's been given the get rid of the baby or I'm gone line from this guy.
Ok we've already worked things out so that she's going to the doctor and that she has a place a Her Mom's(/my Dad's) place and help with baby but what's next? When do we call and open a case with the ORS?
Big question: How do you not bad mouth their Father in front of the kid? What happens if he never wants to see his kid?
Answer by Anonymous at 12:14 AM on Jan. 17, 2013
Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 12:33 AM on Jan. 17, 2013
Answer by admckenzie at 2:30 AM on Jan. 17, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:47 AM on Jan. 17, 2013
As for not talking bad about him? Well, I guess she could just not talk about him at all. Once the child gets old enough and asks then she can just say 'your biological father wasn't ready to be a parent' or 'wasn't interested'. Simple truth without emotion works fine.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:49 AM on Jan. 17, 2013