Very long story, but after dateing a man long distance( even though we grew up in the same town) he was going to end the relationship, then ooops, I was pregnant,He stepped up and faced the pregnancy with me. He said he felt I was attractive, smart, good qualities & wanted to give the relationship a try in a honest way. Not just because I was pregnant. Over the pregnancy . Long distance, he stayed in contact everyday, we spent time together, and he said he loved me, called me his baby, told me I was a beautiful bbaby mama, really showed he cared & loved me. His daughter and my children all became involved..I stayed with him for a few months and had the baby with himin his home ( well the hospital) he never shyer away from his responsibility, and is a wonderful father. Then I came home where I work and am raising the baby on my own. He still stayed in contact and has been in to spend time with his son, but after the baby was born he said his feelings for me are not the same, he does not have the connection . But he wants to continue to do what we have been, he loves and cares for me and wants to support me because he knows our distance can't allow him to help me with the baby, ..but, he can't be what I need in a relationship, ..even tho he still text me everyday & ask how I am and how the baby is, and tries to offer advise when I'm having a challenge. He wants me to move to his city and find a good job so he can be more help to me,he's offered for me to move in with him, stay in a different bedroom, untill I could get on my feet and move out. .he feels I'll have more freedom and help with the baby from him, Now, he's the real kicker, we have had sex once after the baby was born, unprotected, he ( pulled out). Sorry for the graphic detail, but I'm pregnant agian!!!! Well first thing he said was abortion! Then he said he felt it may not be his! I said its laughable to even think I have time to jump into
Someone elese bed.! I said I give him proof, he said he did not want it, he did not say he did not believe me, it was just rational logical thinking,, well hcalled today and said its irresponsible to have the baby, and I can't, and it's not going to change our relationship, that he does not feel the connection for me and we will never have a future together..but he still wants to support me and help with his son, be my friend! I told him I can't handle him meeting me half way, it hurts to bad...he said he wish I quit brushing off the fact he's being invest with me and does not want a relationship, so I'm hurt, torn, confused, I can hardly be a single mom for three kids ( age 15,10 &. 3months) have a full time job and a guy who does not want me anymore...I don't know what to do!?!?!?! I'm very depressed..very, hurting, lost, feel alone,,he's offered to pay for the abortion and take me, but said, I wish I had something to say, but I don't, sorry,, life happens, it sucks. You push forwards. You'll be fine.. ..4 months ago he said, Nik we will get through this chin up, I love you!!! Please some advise????Do I try to win this an back? He's afraid I'll keep his son away too.
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