How can I get my parents to be more strict and set a timeline for Adult siblings to move out of their home.

Oldest sister 33 full time retail job/ recently divorced with two daughters.Sister 27 with one daughter, husband on military contract job in Alaska. Sister 24 no kids full time retail job w/ student debt. Sister 33 pays 150.00 rent. Sister 27 pays 300.00. Sister 24 pays 50.00. My parents spend up all their monthly income from my dads pension, are always stuck watching my nieces. They will not be prepared for retirement. What can I do? What can I say?

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Asked by aaronwayward at 10:43 PM on Jan. 21, 2013 in Adult Children (18+)

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I don't think you can say anything. It is their choice to help.

Answer by mompam at 10:45 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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So your parents are not yet retired? Not likely you can do much of anything, I'm afraid.

Answer by gdiamante at 10:46 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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I think as long as they are contributing and the parents do not mind watching their grandchildren than I would not say anything.

Answer by virginiamama71 at 10:47 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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And you're how old and living with your parents?

Answer by KristiS11384 at 10:48 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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It's their decision what they do. They're all grown up. It's hard when you feel that someone is being taken advantage of, but if they're mentally competent, they'll figure out teir own retirement.

Answer by Ballad at 10:52 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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They are your parents, you can't get them to do anything. They have been putting up with this for a while, why would they stop now. What if you need to move back in when you are an adult? Would you want them to kick you out?

Answer by kmath at 11:44 PM on Jan. 21, 2013
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I do not think you can say anything at all. They are adults and doing what they want.

Answer by Dardenella at 12:18 AM on Jan. 22, 2013
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It's really none of your business... your parents are grown... and you are not in charge of their lives.

Answer by Crafty26 at 12:34 AM on Jan. 22, 2013
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Have you tried to talk with your parents about your concerns? Without criticism? What about talking to your siblings?

Answer by 8-isenough at 12:42 AM on Jan. 22, 2013
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Nothing. These things are their choice.

Answer by QuinnMae at 12:48 AM on Jan. 22, 2013
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