The boy is 4. I have never met him but he is happy but very "shy". He is not in anyway potty trained. DD says he goes into a corner and makes sounds like he is in pain and messes his pants. But does not seem to care if they are changed.
The other issue is water. not just taking a bath but washing hands. It does not make a difference if it is a small amount of water in a sink or running water.
With the little that she has said, I am wondering if he is autistic. The mother is a SAHM and her other chid is two and does not seem to be having these issues. My understanding is that the pediatrician is angry with her because he should be potty trained and cleaner. I am guessing she avoids the hassles with the bath.
my feeling from the boyfriend is that she is afraid of her child being labeled as having a mental issue and so refuses to try to find out what the problems are but denying them.
DD asked what she can do to help and my answer is that there isn;t much if she won;t listen to the Dr. or family.
I am hoping someone has an idea of what thses symptoms might point to and any tips on talking to the parent.
Answer by winterglow at 3:39 AM on Jan. 22, 2013
It could be a developmental delay or it could be nothing. At this age he should be evaluated by a developmental specialist. Kids aren't labeled in school the same way we were when I was younger. There is a lot of help available. However, many kids are not potty trained by 4, especially some boys. He might be perfectly happy with the way things are now because it's what he's used to.
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