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I've had various issues with dh's mother (mil) over the last year and a half-ish...she's asked to stay with us knowing her and I don't get along, wants dh to drive out of his way to take her places, and when she doesn't cover enough gas and dh lets her know, she guilt-trips him and he caves. Dh has a savior complex and is a mama's boy, and his mom takes full advantage of it.
my brother in law (bil for short, dh's brother) gets treated like a golden boy, getting a LOT of help from his mom when they're struggling less than us.Details are in previous questions from past...
Current situation is mil is scheduled for shoulder surgery and asked us to keep her baby chihuahua for 3 weeks. We live in an apartment complex that has a rule of no guest pets. When my parents visited for a day they wanted to bring their dog but manager said no. Dh told her no initially because of the rule and was gonna have friends (who are TERRIBLE housekeepers) keep the dog instead. Golden boy had said no apparently...problem is when golden boy tells her no she doesn't push like she does with us-and I think it's wrong that golden boy gets all the help and WE get asked for all the favors.
Dh went to the manager without me and manager said yes to 2 weeks only. (same amount of time we're allowed to have guests). When I spoke to her the next time I told her I didnt want the dog here (cuz I know hes enough of a mamas boy to pull what he is pulling, and baby chihuahua's are a lot of work-and the dog cries at night).
Dh has said we may need to keep the dog an extra week but I told him the manager wont approve that. He's saying "she's just gonna have to understand, my mom NEEDS me." His mother KNOWS guest pets aren't allowed and KNEW she'd be putting us in a tough spot asking us this. I'm thinking of going to the manager and telling her to threaten animal control if the dog isn't gone at 2 weeks. Mil is at her sisters house, so she could easily have taken the dog with her-AND we got stuck with the dog this Sunday. Her shoulder surgery isn't even until Friday!!
Where is she recuperating? The Dog should be where she is. Otherwise a Kennel is the way to go.
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