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I mean there's only so much a parent can do in a situation like that, so I always tell my girls if they're being bullied or pushed around that they have my permission to defend themselves. Whether they push them back, start hollering and screaming or whatever. My 2 year old was being pushed around by some bigger kid at the play area the other day and his parents weren't even paying attention to him. She comes running over to me, crying. I saw everything that happened. I told his parents what happened and they barely say anything to him. They laugh and tell him to knock it off, that's it. There wasn't much effect. So I told my daughter if he pushes her again she has my permission to push him back or do whatever she needs to do to defend herself. I'm not going to let my kids be bullied. Of course she didn't, but another mom gave me the evil eye when I told her that. I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with teaching your kid to defend themselves. Part of the reason so much bullying goes on is because kids don't defend themselves.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Jan. 24, 2013 in General Parenting
I would have praised your child for coming to you for help with the problem & been totally disgusted that the parents of the other child seemed to blow it off & not do anything when the behavior continued. To the mom who gave you the stink eye, ignore her. Why should you & your child have to leave the playground b/c the parents of the bigger, mean child who was being aggressive, weren't doing their job?! As long as she doesn't think it's OK to push all the time, then I say they are never too young to learn a little survival skills. It's a tough world out there. You did OK in my book.
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