What do you do when you and your SO are on two different sexual levels?
Dh's idea of kinky and my idea of it are sooo different. I try to indulge him but he can't or won't even try with me.
I know it sounds petty but it is becoming a problem. I resent him for it. When we first got together he had this idea of a threesome. I was very insecure with my body at the time. Although looking back on it now I would KILL for that body lol.
Anyway, dh wanted a threesome. He never got it because he mentioned having it with a friend of mine at the time and I stopped that crap dead in its tracks.
However I have indulged: Anal, Oral (swallowing), porn, semi-public acts. We still talk about a threesome while having sex. Lots of bdsm.
But those are mostly his things. He refuses to even talk about what I like. He says its "wrong".
It pisses me off. You can't call what I like wrong but expect me to do for you.
I asked him to go to an adult club with me. He said no. Won't go and I can't go either because he doesn't want someone looking at me like that. I tried to explain that it's not like I'll be walking around flat out naked. Not trying to hear it. He won't watch the kind of porn I like because he says it doesn't fit "us". We're an interracial couple (he's white i'm black). He will only watch porn with a white guy and a black girl or 2 black chicks. I mean seriously.
I just feel stifled sexually.
I'm more of a dominant person, although with him I try to not to be. I talked to him about me exploring that side and he, again, said no.
I think I might be bi and would love to find out. Tried opening up to him about it and he said, " Oh your mom is gay and you just saw too much of that shit too soon. U ain't bi"
What do you do when your stuck pleasing someone else on a sexual level and you aren't allowed to really explore and find out what you like?
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