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My 15 year old acting out because he wants to live with his dad.

My son has began his freshman year in high acting unruly. He has told me that he wants to go live with his dad and because his dad isn't financially prepared for him he can't, and now he is acting out. He has been suspended from school for drinking on campus. He has been readmitted pending he doesn't get into anymore trouble for the rest of the school year. This past Friday he was written up for being disrespectful to his teacher. He told her to leave him alone when she asked him to participate in class. I tried talking to him calmly to get a understanding of what's going on with him to only hear that he wants to live with his dad and he is doing everything wrong because he can't go. I am reaching out to other moms for advice before I or my husband hurt this little boy. We are truly trying to be understanding but I WILL NOT deal with a disrespectful child. My husband has offered him all the help possible and nothing.

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HurtingMom182

Asked by HurtingMom182 at 6:50 PM on Jan. 26, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Has his Dad told him "No." ? He might need to hear it from him if he hasn't already.
    layh41407

    Answer by layh41407 at 6:57 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • are you getting child support?

    what makes dad NOT finacially able? He NEEDS his dad, why not help dad out to help your son out?
    Your HUSBAND is not dad and if your son says he wants dad then your husband butting in is going to make it worse.
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 7:05 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • This is a tough one because it could clear up if he can go to his Dad. I have to ask the same questions as luv^^. Can you help it be financially viable for his Dad to have him? If his Dad is a responsible parent then it could be just the ticket to straighten this kid out. By sending him there you remove his main excuse for bad behavior and possibly give him what he needs to start fresh and move onward and upward.

    I only say this because acting out is what finally precipitated my SD's move to our house permanently and she has been on an upward track ever since. I only advise this if the Dad is willing and capable of doing the work to put this boy on the right path and keep him on it, however.
    tessiedawg

    Answer by tessiedawg at 7:14 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • something may have happened that caused him to act out, maybe take him to a counselor. If he is actin g act you need to set rules, take away his favorite things, dont let him go out with friends, school and straight home. Have him do extra chores around the house
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 6:54 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • Has he spoken to his father about this? I think that's what needs to happen. He needs to discuss it with his father, so he understands that you're not just telling him no. Hopefully that will make life easier for you.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 7:00 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • Yea, did Dad tell him he can't come. Or is you who is telling him? Make his Dad do it. His dad is not financially prepared? Lame excuse for him to say.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 7:02 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • Have you informed your son he is messing up his own future doing these things not yours. He will be the one who can't get a good job because he messed up in highschool.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 7:04 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • where are you?
    you asked a question an hour ago and havent responded
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 8:38 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • So you have a husband? How involved is he with your son, why don't you take him and all of you to counseling?
    jerseydiva

    Answer by jerseydiva at 10:25 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

  • I understand where your coming from but sometimes tough love is the best love that is what my mom made me realize and they actually made me sign a contact because I did not just do it once to my mom I did it twice and in the end I know it made her feel horrible even when she didnt say anything. but i hope everything goes well tomorrow and yall figure out everything and it gets better. prayers:)
    mommaTishi

    Answer by mommaTishi at 11:40 PM on Jan. 26, 2013

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