This is more of a vent than a question but everyone is welcome to lend their insight. This just really upsets me and I needed to post it someplace. okay, the deal is for the past i'd say ten years or so I have been online as a male. I used to go into yahoo chat rooms under women's screen names and get bombarded with Pms asking a/s/l what are you wearing, how big are your boobs and other crap like that. This was back in the day when yahoo had user groups and most of what I did was in role playing games. So, I created a male identity and after a while I began to feel more comfortable as a male and pretty much every account I made on every site was under a male guise, this in fact is the first site that I actually came on and admitted to being female for obvious reasons. Anyway, my issue now is that I have a male friend that I have been chatting with and we are really good friends, get along good and just great buddies. He lives close by so we talked and decided to meet up and go out for a beer go bowling what ever. So obviously I had to tell him the truth about me. He didn't get upset over it, he has known me about three years online and knows me and understands that I feel more male in my head so it was a shock to him but he knows it's not because I was being purposely deceitful. I still want to be friends with him and he acted like oh yeah we can be buds, we can go grab a beer, hang out do guy things etc...except now the last few times we have spoken its different. He started talking about I can't wait to meet you in person you have such a sexy sounding voice, do you think maybe sparks would fly and we can be more than friends, I really want to see what you look like, then last night he actually asked me what kind of things I am into. Am I kinky in bed, how many partners I have had, do I sleep with men and women? I am like omg, what happened to us being buds? Why is it that I am suddenly no longer the guy he knew but now a girl that he is trying to pick up? I am at the point where I am avoiding his texts now and about to tell him that I don't think were going to work out as friends and it was a mistake to tell him the truth. I just don't understand why he wants to ruin a good friendship by thinking he can "date" me. It's like what do I have to do, hide behind a computer the rest of my life because all people see when they look at me is a woman? Sorry for the long post, I just needed to get this off my chest I suppose.
That is very sad. I would just cut all contact with him. He may be very unnecessarily hurtful if you do meet up. I would not put myself in that position. If I were you, I'd join online groups specific to what I was interested in. Then if you meet someone who has the same interests as you, there won't be any disappointment if you decide to meet in person. Best wishes & I hope you meet a great person & You are always welcome here with us too! :)
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:11 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Answer by dullscissors at 9:03 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Answer by tnm786 at 8:12 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
So you have known him for YEARS, as a "guy" on line? You never gave it a thought after maybe, a month or two of talking online to tell him. "I am a female" pretending to be male. That is cruel. You might as well just tell him the truth now. The way you are talking to me. You are acting just like all the other guys. And I do not want to talk to you any more.
Answer by louise2 at 8:18 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Answer by FroggyFeet at 8:38 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:59 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
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Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 9:30 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Just being honest here. Most people do not care how you feel in your head(you are female, but in your head you are male). They see what you are on the out side. Truthfully the best lie you can say if you do not want guys to make passes at you, is that you are a Lisbian. That way they know you are female, but do not like guys like that.
Answer by louise2 at 9:34 AM on Jan. 27, 2013
Answer by spiritguide_23 at 9:46 AM on Jan. 27, 2013