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how to be more patient with the sks. ages 7,9 and 11.. and just more patient in general.?/

i am always losing my temper with the kids especially when they do stupid things. and i will often ask them is they are stupid? ( i know i shouldnt ) so help me find another way to address these issue and still get my point across.
for example: i ask sk7 to check the dryer and see if the clothes are dry, she says yes, i ask her to take them out and to hellp fold them(most of them was the kids clothes anyway) a few hours later i go to put the clothes away and they are still WET,, shouldnt she know the difference between wet and ddry?? and why is she doing this stuff all the time?

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Asked by rhondamomof5 at 7:55 PM on Jun. 19, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • there are really two steps to helping with this

    first step: figure out what really matters and how big of a issue is it. the best way i do it is pretend i'm at a friends house seeing the same thing. would i agree or would i say "what is she freaking out about, it's not that big of a deal". yes she should've done the clothes but what happened because she didn't... the clothes didn't get dried. just have to take a step back and say (sometimes a few times before it gets through your head - i'm speaking from expieriance)it's not life threatening. lol.

    Answer by ibsqueen2004 at 10:57 PM on Jun. 19, 2008

  • second step: find a reward system that works. notice i said reward not punishment. maybe marbles in a jar, add marbles for good things (being nice, doing chores) and remove ones for bad things (talking back, not following through). when you lose all your marbles, you lose a priveledge. when you get a certain amount of marbles (i.e. 10 marbles) you get a treat (extra 30 minutes of tv). you can add up the minutes and get an hour alone with mom every sun. also, make specific chores that each child has to do. or make a chorse list and rotate each week who has to complete it (less arguments). if you want to chat some more, email me. i had a better email with a better explination listed but it didn't post somehow. sorry!

    Answer by ibsqueen2004 at 11:01 PM on Jun. 19, 2008

  • Honestly...I think you deserve a break. Mom has burn out and needs to re-charge those batteries. We have big jobs to do and often don't give ourselves and our needs the time and attention that they deserve. Do something for yourself for a change. Take a day off...and just see if that doesn't help to improve your mood, your energy and your patience with those little darlings. LOL good luck

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 4:11 AM on Jun. 20, 2008

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