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After being cheated on what's the next step?

What would you do after confirming you've been cheated on?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:16 PM on Feb. 13, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (12)
  • Have you talked to your SO? That's next, then LOTS more talking, then moving on, I guess.

    Answer by sfwilson at 9:20 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • Kick'n his butt to the curb would be the next step for me. I won't put up with that and he knows it.

    Answer by coala at 9:21 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • kick his butt to the street and the next step divorce i would not put of with that

    Answer by nakita72 at 9:23 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • ummm. hello? dumping his ass.

    Answer by calliesmommie at 9:25 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • If you think he'll do it again, then you know what to do. If you choose to stay and give him another chance, get ready for major work on your relationship ~ trust issue, major heartache, etc.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:27 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • something like smashing his car windows in ;] hehe jk

    Answer by aliciatron at 9:29 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • Talk to him to see where his head is at. What kind of man is he - did he make a mistake and is genuinely sorry for it, or is he the type to *say* he's sorry, but only because he got caught?

    Answer by flmom321 at 9:29 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • It depends if its a boyfriend or a husband. I think the outcome is different when your in a marriage for many years. I believe noone is perefect and everyone makes mistakes, its how they choose to correct their mistkaes that matter. did he cheat because he doesnt love you? are you having problems ?does he want out? or did he just fall into lust? Is he sorry and willing to make things right? get counseling? figure it out together or does he not know how he feels? All this matters. In a marriage its for better or worse and sometimes the worst sucks. Follow your heart and decide if its worth saving best wishes

    Answer by desperateat48 at 10:00 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • throw out his stuff and open a bottle of wine!

    Answer by chyna_doll at 10:23 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

  • One- it depends if he is boyfriend or a husband. If he's a boyfriend, he needs to go.

    If he's a husband, in order to continue with the relationship and for it to be something that can be repaired, he has to be sincerely and genuinely repentant and apologize. He has to be willing to go to counseling and really help mend the trust that was broken.

    If he is unwilling to do that and acts like you just need to get over it, then it's time to divorce.

    And even after the counseling, if you still feel that you can not trust him, it's time to cut your losses.

    Answer by nwdeserangel at 11:08 PM on Feb. 13, 2009

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