i know my relationship isnt perfect but would it be bad if I have a child with the man im with (later when im financial fit) out of wedlock?
NOT in terms of morality. Im thinking maybe i should marry when the kids are 18 (or IF at all) how am i going to be hard to get if im married? that sounds weird but i wouldnt feel like anything special if i gave him everything and left nothing for a mystery. we have been togethe 6 years and even though we argue (as some of you know) we still are firy as every. we have that spark.
i know my situation better than anyone obviously, but what are pros and cons of this situation? because it sounds too good to be true for my situation and im wondering if maybe im forgetting something. also we are young so i might as well wait. but i dont want to wait much longer to have kids
obviously if we broke up i wouldnt get child support but i dont want his money i always know i can survive on my own.
i just know the man i love is not marriage material (and he may or may not be later down the road) i want to have a family with him and he wants to start one with me too eventually. i dont want to start all over with someone else just because he's not your typical husband
i just feel like we would both be miserable tied down in that way. but we still want kids together. so that could work right!?
he loves me a LOT and we've talked about it. for years hes really wanted to be a dad with me as his copilot so its not like he will leave if i get pregnant.
and no need to bring up the pot roast, and no need to say i cant afford it because both of those things are true, i overreacted (get over it) and am surviving pay check to paycheck paying of college loans (get over it)
so lets all giddy up and answer some questions!
Answer by meooma at 11:17 AM on Jan. 29, 2013
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