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Some information first.... I met a guy online some time back and we hit it off wonderfully. He was in the stages of divorce with his wife. Both were dating other people and both found that their marriage was over. At the beginning of the year, he tells me that they decided to try to work on their marriage for their kids sake and because he's leaving for Afghanistan in April and as a new years resolution to give it one last shot. I didn't fault him at that. I told him not to expect to hear from me any more because I wouldn't be a contributing factor to his marriage failing and it being faulted on me. I heard back from him again the other day wanting to get together. When talking to him he told me that he and his wife do not talk to each other or even tell each other they love each other, and that there is nothing worth saving in his marriage, due to also catching her in certain situations, and now he's just buying his time for now, but wants to get together and 'Hang Out'.. I told him we could actually hang out as friends and he told me that he cant really do that because she wont let him hang out with girl friends. He said he wants to but until he can work some things out he wants to keep it casual with me and still hang out without her knowing (basically sex which is quite amazing by the way with us) He also stated the other night when we met up that he regrets going back to try working on things with his ex wife and that his mind drifts to me very often and he doesn't even think of his wife or want to do anything with her, that he's just around for the kids so she can't use them as a pawn before he goes back overseas........
Have I gotten myself into something that's probably not very good to be in? Or Is it worth working on with him because we do have a great relationship and can talk about anything/everything and just waiting on him to finalize things with his ex/wife because he's afraid that she'll use the kids as a pawn......
I told him the other day when leaving that I now would be considered the home wrecker, he said no and he wouldn't ever consider me that because he doesn't have a marriage with her and she was the home wrecker in his eyes (he didn't tell me what he's caught her doing tho)
Asked by Anonymous at 7:50 PM on Feb. 1, 2013 in Relationships
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Answer by RyansMom001 at 5:27 AM on Feb. 2, 2013
Have I gotten myself into something that's probably not very good to be in? YES
Answer by 3libras at 7:58 PM on Feb. 1, 2013
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