Me and my husband have recently had a disagreement over my stepdaughters curfew. I have said before it should be 10 on weekends and if ANYTHING changed with plans, that should be communicated asap. Well last night her plans were that she would ride back home from an event with the friend she went thirr with. However we get a call 10:20, that her friend left and she needs us to come pick her up. I feel very strong that this is a huge deal, but my husband disagrees when i mentioned she needs to be disciplined over this, that we are just starting yo let her go out and do things, that we need to put our foot down now, he didnt want to hear it and with her being my step daughter i have mixed feelings what to do. I am legally responsible if this irresponsible behavior gets worse or if she is out past city curfew, or even i also worry, her being a girl, i should know exactly the plans and what is going on ?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:00 AM on Feb. 2, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by noel1978 at 6:19 PM on Feb. 5, 2013
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Answer by booklover545 at 11:01 AM on Feb. 2, 2013
10 is fine, but it should also be flexible.... she is 12, and there are going to be situations (like this one) that she can't control. Sounds like it wasn't really her fault... why would you punish her for another parents irresponsible behavior.
Use it as a teaching moment about good communication. If she thinks every time plans get messed up that she is going to get punished for calling you then she is going to stop calling. I mean why bother... she's going to get in trouble either way, so why bother... might as well just have fun if your going to get yelled at either way.
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