So my and DH were talking last night about the upcoming SB party and somehow or another we got on the topic of our house. A little background....My DH and I got this house last summer, the house he grew up in after his dad passed away. This house is old but in great shape, and definite upgrade from our last house, and much BIGGER! Anyway, for the past several years, it was just his dad living here, and he had a housekeeper come in 3 days a week and clean and other stuff, so the house was constantly clean and vacuumed. Now there is a family here, us, with a 4 yr old. For the most part she is good at telling me if she spilled something and I could get after it and clean it before it stained the carpet, which BTW is a really light beige color. Great color for just adults living here, not so good with a toddler/preschool child.
You mom's out there know kids will get into something the split second your back is turned. I have tried to allow for stuff such as crayon drawing on the wall, pen, pencil, markers...etc. But I am not super mom and forecast the future. One night she got a hold of a red marker and drew on the wall with it, the chair, the couch, her legs, part of her face in less the 2 min. I caught the marker on the wall and cleaned it before he saw it, but I didn't see the marker on the chair and couch. So last night he tells me he is tired of 'us' (me & dd) "'tearing shit up". When think off tearing shit up, I think breaking something, maybe a little hole in the wall, stuff like that. And the carpet he adds is ruined. I really try to catch stains as she does them, but sometimes I do not see it right away, or I can't get it up. Its a fucking 'LIGHT BEIGE' carpet!!!!!! I have changed her juice colors to allow if she spills it will not show up that bad if it stains, even after I clean it. Stuff like the CapriSun juice in a pouch. Its clear, so if she tries to insert the straw (very independent) herself, and dribbles a little, it will not be seen. Or any juice light in color. But the carpet is still stained, buts it not beyond repair. A good 'ol fashioned carpet cleaner will clean it I tell him, and he says its besides the point. Basically, stuff that is happening is cosmetic work. Carpet cleaner, paint walls, (need to be repainted anyway).
I am getting so tired of this. Ever since I moved here, I feel like I can't be good enough, can't keep it clean enough. He tells me his dad had lived here and managed not to mess it up (house). I bit my tongue at that point. (see housekeeper) this is twice he had said something, but never came out and said I was a bad housekeeper. But he of course doesn't help. Car magazines stacked on toilet, snot rags on the floor on his side of the bed, he washes clothes, his own. I do the rest of it. Oh did I mention I take his stuff out of the dryer and hang up his work shirts? And fold his clothes? I clean everyday, well most days. Some days I do not feel like doing much. But there isn't a stack of dishes with flies everywhere! But I do cook dinner for him every damn night!
Then my BIL and SIL come over tonight, I feel like she judges me and how I keep up the house. I see she looked at her DH tonight and shook her head at the state of our front room. I had clothes folded but put away, and there were my dd's clothes on the bathroom floor, and dishes in the sink. I have had pneumonia and do not quite have the stamina built up that I had before.
Anyway, I am sorry I made this so loooooong! But its been buiklding up for a while now, and for those who managed to read this whole thing, thank you soooooooooo much for taking the time to read this, and comment. And I even put paragraphs in!!
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