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In a (mildly) related story . . .

Abstain, young ladies. Just say "No". Boys will be boys. It is up to us, with our gentle, moral ways, to lead by example and tame the corrupt, wild beasts that naturally reside within the male gender (but not within the female gender, of course). Slip into your chastity belts, refrain from immoral words, thoughts and deeds, and the boys will follow your example, just as they have since Biblical times.

At least, this seems to be the message from the Queen of Peace High School officials in New Jersey.

Why the double-standard? 

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Asked by jsbenkert at 1:24 PM on Feb. 4, 2013 in Religious Debate

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Answers (16)
  • Because we are the ones who get pregnant?
    We have the power over sex?

    Answer by Dardenella at 1:31 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • It's the same sexist BS that's been around at least for thousand of years.

    Answer by SWasson at 1:32 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • Good grief...

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 1:33 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • Dardenella, this story actually deals with girls being told not to swear, because it's "unladylike", while the boys were not given similar direction, mainly because "boys will be boys", and hopefully they will learn from the girls meek and mild dispositions.


    Comment by jsbenkert (original poster) at 1:37 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • Just ridiculous


    Answer by Alisim at 1:37 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • Well as a woman I have a beastly sexual desire too.... I need a gentle man?

    We are sexual, men and woman. Each persons controls their own sexual desires. A man can abstaine from sex if he wants to he doesn't need a gentle woman. That's silly to me.

    Answer by skinnyslokita at 1:38 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • I followed the link to the full story. I didn't get what you got out of it though I thought it was sexist asking the young women to refrain while not requesting it from the boys

    Answer by snookyfritz at 1:56 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • We have the power over sex?

    What does that have to do with it?

    Answer by NotPanicking at 2:05 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • the private Christian college i went to locked up the freshmen girls (freshmen had curfew) but not the boys...they ran free even after curfew (that was suppose to be for all freshmen). we always assumed they only cared if their girls got pregnant, not if the boys impregnated girls from other schools (cause you can only have sex after midnight haha).

    ignorant thinking like this has been going on for centuries...and has it worked? no all it did was make men who viewed women as inferior beings that deserve no rights, no freedoms, are sexually repressed, and for many gave them the impression that we are lesser beings. its sad that this kinda thinking is still being served up...but at least its mostly religious institutions that push it unashamedly.

    Answer by okmanders at 2:10 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

  • Because it's totally the woman/girl's fault when she get's raped.


    Answer by MamaK88 at 6:08 PM on Feb. 4, 2013

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