apparently today is "where's my dad?" day. i have three kids, two diff. dads. my oldest was essentially raised by my ex husband (not her bio dad) since infancy (she is six now), and then he & i had two more kids together.
oldest's bio dad has never made an attempt to be in her life. he recently moved away to tennessee. he did come here last year once while i was at work, my mom was here with the kids, and he was acting irate and belligerent so she didn't let him inside. my oldest came to the door to see what the commotion was and he shouted to her that he's her dad. she was 5 at the time so she remembers.
well today my youngest said that she misses daddy (ex hubs). he only comes around once a week. then, for whatever reason, my oldest was like "he's not my daddy. i don't know my daddy." and started asking who he was. i just told her his name is _____. she said yeah, he's the man that came to the door and told me i'm his daughter. i flatly just said yes. then she asked why does she never see him? i wanted to say, because he's an asshole. but i told her that he lives far away, which is true now. she let it go after that.
it's so hard though. i know you aren't suppose to talk bad about your ex in front of your kids, but the truth is he doesn't want to be around. i don't think ill ever be able to look her in the face and tell her that, but there will come a day that she'll realize it for herself. how do you answer questions like these, how do you cope as a single parent when the other bailed and the heart break your child deals with?
Answer by funlovinlady at 12:40 PM on Feb. 6, 2013
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Answer by admckenzie at 2:04 PM on Feb. 6, 2013
Skirt around the truth tell they are close to teen years. then just do a complete confession if they ask. Tell them, you are old enough to here the truth. Like it or not.
Answer by louise2 at 7:56 PM on Feb. 6, 2013
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Next question overall
If my boyfriend pays child support isn't he allowed visitation?