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When I was 15 I was raped by my then boyfriend and a friend of his. We're not talking "date rape" or "stat rape" or "I changed my mind" we're talking "chased me down beat me and held me down while the other took his turn rape."
Now, I'm in my 30's and run our local Small Business Group in town. All of the members have "friended" me on facebook. One of the most recent women who has friended me works with Tupperware and is really a nice lady. She works hard, takes good care of her kids and is always happy to help anyone she can. But she recently announced her engagement on Facebook to her boyfriend of 3 years. I went on her page to congratulate her only to realize she is marrying the boyfriend who raped me 15+ years ago.
I just didn't say anything. I can't really congratulate her on marrying a monster! I know he hasn't gotten much better in life either - it's not like he grew up or anything. He's STILL using drugs and he's still a partier. I know this because we are in a small town and people talk, not because I have anything to do with him. Plus, less than a year ago he tried to sell my husband heroin (my husband is an addict - clean 7 years).
I'm sure she knows he's using, but I don't now if she knows all that he is. he was always really good at hiding things! When we were dating I didn't know A LOT!
Anyways, if it was you, would you tell her? Or would you just hope their relationship never comes up in conversation?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:52 PM on Feb. 7, 2013 in Relationships
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